Teens: do you need from your parents?

How to live with his parents when the gulf of misunderstanding is widening every day? Or suffer from: that is the question ...



As a teenager, you know that you exist for yourself and not to satisfy the desires of your parents. But the intoxication of freedom - to have sex, go out, choose your future - plus the awareness that without financial independence, you are under guardianship, a prisoner of the family, like a bird to whom the it would cut the wings.

Parents who are not letting go

More question, then let your parents dictate your life! Only your mother blames you confuse the home with a hotel and turn your bedroom into a dumping ground ... Your parents deem irresponsible, control your output, limit spending money or comment on your associates, regardless of your opinion, under because they do not want to spoil your life. In short, no shortage of reasons to revolt. So, you argue constantly with the ones you expect the most support.

An unwinnable conflict

Before the accumulation of what they deem as provocations, parents often avoid the conflict. Disappointed at having failed to inform you of their own values and is sometimes accused of seeing errors of education, they react aggressively or, conversely, are lax, which does little more.

False starts

Door slammed in your abilities noisy declarations of independence, you will soon see one solution: leave the sometimes stuffy world of the family. That means facing the real world, earning a living to feed themselves, find shelter ... Although few adolescents are able to cope with difficulties that arise then. After a departure announced loudly, it reappears in his parents a few hours or days later, low profile, but with the same dreams of freedom.

Escapes and evasions

It is often difficult to console himself for the loss of childhood, and with it the warm complicity with the family. At school and at home, sometimes you feel undervalued, unloved. The discovery of freedom that ultimately suffer. This often demonstrates the failure of a dialogue between parents and children. First try to resume that dialogue. Warning not to resort to extreme gestures to express your emotions. This is certainly not the right solution.

Just drink alcohol or take drugs to try to escape a merciless adult world is a cure worse than the disease! In addition to the illegal nature of many practices, you may destroy your health ... and life.

Excess and realism

Parents often worry about not enough to preserve their children the dangers of life. Yet, you feel invulnerable! Avoid, however risky behavior (unprotected sex, driving a motorcycle without a helmet ...), which may bring back sharply on earth. Do not blame your parents for their timidity: to find a balance. Listen and respect each other will change the course of aggressive social interaction. But for this, everyone must put his own! In attempting to acquire, gradually, a new place in the family, you will live in harmony at last, until the day you can fly on your own ...

The "yo-yo" dangerous for the heart

The succession of phases of loss and weight gain can sometimes be associated with depressive disorders. It now appears that this syndrome "yoyo" also increase the risk of cardiovascular disease.



The "yo-yo" weight is a common phenomenon among women still in search of a thin ideal. But generally, the successive periods of diets are less effective and at each stop of the plan, weight regain is increasingly important. A recent U.S. study * shows that also leads to lower "good" cholesterol, which is opposed to the fatty deposits in the arteries and protects against cardiovascular disease.
The consequence of a succession of restrictive diets are too strict

If you "starve" the body adapts by reducing energy expenditure metabolism. Somehow, he learned to operate in "economic". Where the body is again sufficiently powered, there is no immediate resumption of energy expenditure but some careful storage reserves in preparation for further periods "lean". Hence the inevitable weight gain immediately after cessation of the scheme, especially as the hardships have been so frustrating that people begin to eating anything.

Adverse effects on cholesterol

If dieting rebounds by weight, the weight rises slowly but surely, the rate of "good" cholesterol, them, follow suit, but down ...

The data published in the Journal of the serious American College of Cardiology from a study conducted on 485 women, 130 had a history of "yo-yo" weight (19% of women had at least three times in their lives oscillations in weight between 4.5 and 8.5 kg, 6% between 9 and 22 kg and 2% over 22 kg.). All were under examination for chest pain suggesting coronary artery disease (fatty deposits narrowing of coronary arteries nourishing the heart). On average, the "women yo-yo" had a rate of "good" cholesterol decreased by 7% compared to those with stable weight. On the other hand, larger women were also those who had weight changes of the largest and had the lowest levels of good cholesterol, HDL cholesterol, considered to play an important cardioprotective role.

And risk of cardiovascular disease potentially increased

If the mean difference in HDL cholesterol is minimal here (- 7%, 4 mg / dl), it still represents a risk factor for cardiovascular significant. There is an inverse relationship between the concentration of HDL-cholesterol and the incidence of cardiovascular complications.

This study does not allow to conclude a direct causal link between the "yo-yo" weight and CHD. It would, therefore necessary to follow a larger number of women on a time probably long enough, the arteries "fouling" fortunately slowly.

Eat a natural response to stress

Some obese overeat because they are stressed and can not find comfort in food. In summary the thesis advanced by Dr. Jean-Philippe Zermati nutritionist Paris and vice-president of the Research Group on Obesity and Overweight (BIG).



He said the stress caused by an "stressor", generates negative emotions. This stressor is generally opposed to using specific responses adapted to use the skills of each. However, when problem can not be resolved, people rely on nonspecific defense mechanisms that help to reduce anxiety and negative emotions. This translates into buying clothes, going on weekend ... or eat. Consumption of food, especially those that you appreciate, would be a natural response to nonspecific stress, intended to provide comfort.

The food beliefs responsible for disturbances

For Dr. Zermati, obesity and overweight are due for some people to a failure of the relationship between food intake and comfort. If this mechanism stops working, the person begins to eat compulsively, to obtain a comfort that she can not find. This problem is caused by food beliefs including the notion of permitted foods and forbidden foods. The person with weight problems can no longer find comfort in swallowing food it believes responsible for his condition. She ate a greater quantity of food "allowed" but remains anxious and stressed.

Loss food sensations

This disorder leads to other eating disorders. When falling for a food "forbidden", it promises to do it again in the future. She feels compelled to eat as much of that food before facing the future scarcity: when is a discrepancy, it is no longer a square but the whole chocolate bar is engulfed by example.

These beliefs are food, according to Dr. Zermati, also lead to a loss of sensation: they impose on persons rhythms of meals and quantities of food to eat. By following these guidelines, the person is no longer guided by his own feelings of hunger or satiety and no longer able to independently regulate food intake.

Denounce the regimes and simplistic explanations of obesity

Dr. Zermati is Vice President of the Research Group on Obesity and overweight (BIG). This combination of nutritionist, psychiatrists, dieticians, general practitioners and specialists for goals, among others, to seek the complex mechanisms of obesity and identify new therapeutic approaches. On the website of BIG, many explanations of the mechanisms of obesity and the evils of most existing schemes are available.

Dangers of piercing as it passes the oral

Lips, cheeks and even language, everything is up for piercing. But between the love of body-art "and stay healthy, it may be able to choose. For the piercing of the tongue or body parts around the mouth is not without its dangers ...



The piercing is fashionable. It is no longer a body area that escapes him, the most common: ears, nose ... the less classic nipples, sex ... In the United States, and to a lesser extent Europe, it has become commonplace in some circles of piercing the tongue, uvula, lips or cheeks. Beware though. Not only does this practice exposes the usual problems of body piercing, when it is not practiced good hygiene: possible transmission of hepatitis B or C through blood or, worse, an infection HIV, but it also poses risks for very specific.

Potential problems of bleeding or asphyxia

Oral Piercing: Out of danger pain and swelling that can result when the jewel is not tolerated, an increase in unpleasant salivary flow can be observed, even the development of a hypersensitivity or allergy to metal. Sometimes, the device also modifies speech abilities chewing and swallowing and may lead to the formation of scar tissue or damaging the nerves of the tongue. Finally, trauma may occur in the teeth, either during insertion or during a one bite if it is mistakenly directed against the jewel.

Two risks have reacted the American Dental Association (ADA), which has stated on numerous occasions his opposition to oral piercing:

* Firstly, the possibility of airway obstruction in relation to the swelling of the throat or inhalation of jewelry;
* Second, the occurrence of serious bleeding secondary to a section of arteries supplying the language, because this muscle is richly vascularized.

Certainly, no one yet seems to have died of this cause. But if we are to believe the spokesman of the ADA, Dr. Michael Messina (Cleveland), this possibility can not be eliminated.

A major risk of infection

To this must be added the problem of infections, even more acute than for other parts of the body. The mouth naturally containing many bacteria, various infections can indeed develop if the jewelry has not been disinfected prior to installation. Infection extending to the mandible and around the mouth has been detected in a patient 25 who had had his tongue pierced. He had to be intubated, and then made *.

Also, if dental problem, the diagnosis is made more difficult because the jewelry may hinder its presence radiographs. It may be necessary to remove it.

Finally, note that the reckless dare yet to venture into, it happens that the language is the seat of a small hole when you remove the jewelry. What is not always pretty, pretty, admit it!

Insist cleanliness

In reality, it would be prudent to abandon the piercing in this area, so fragile, body. For those who can not resist the charms of this mode, recommend at least some common sense advice. Verify that the person with whom you are going to do the piercing and this gesture is used to require that equipment be disinfected, preferably by autoclaving, before insertion. That's the minimum!

Teens: Make peace with your body

Mirror, mirror, why am I the ugliest? That is the question you ask as many girls in adolescence. However, you must accept the changes to reconnect with your new body.



At puberty, in a few months the body changes. This stage between childhood and adulthood is often seen with more difficulty than the transformation is irreversible and uncontrolled. And the result is not necessarily the one expected: while the body has not reached its adult proportions, puberty is often accompanied by weight gain, rapid growth legs relative to the bust or the appearance of skin problems like acne. So, look in the mirror sometimes becomes a torture!

Truth or illusion? If it was only the mirror that you referred this horrible picture! Nay Magazines and television seem to confirm what you think: you're an ugly duckling to swan country!

The weight, new enemy?

The few extra pounds made at puberty must encourage you not to eat anything that does not snack between meals, in short, to adopt a new eating habits.

Some girls, are doomed to be thinking big, start eating compulsively, but could not control themselves: meet her eating disorder is not a remedy for the difficulties of adolescence, it is better to regain self-confidence, verbalize the discomfort caused by changing body.

Other young girls - or the same, alternating between the two behaviors - do not support the idea of having a sexual body, like their mother, and refuse their femininity. Under the pretext of regime, they eat less and less to the anorexia and believe they regain control of themselves, preventing their bodies to exist. Very poorly experienced by those around who feels guilty, this attitude requires the girl to deceive non-stop with his family and friends. And well-being she feels momentarily no longer need to eat, has sometimes irreversible physical consequences that require hospitalization and work of psychotherapy.

Loving Simply

In reality the situation is not so dramatic as we think the difficulty is to adapt to his new body, namely the bear, as you wear a garment with style, your center gravity in a different place, and, with more breasts, you feel heavier. Like the comic actor who gives himself airs of obese buttocks while walking back, belly first, show yourselves your new figure, as if she was deformed. That's because you do not please, that others do not find you attractive.

Taking possession of his body

Puberty is a second birth. Once you've admitted that you are not visiting your new body, you will taste treat and the highlight. You have to find now models and colors to suit your new shapes! Relearn to walk! Do not slumped in a chair! And soon you will see: the body, which you seemed monstrous, became an object of pleasure and seduction!

Puberty and the transformation of voice

Puberty is the entry of children into adolescence. It occurs under the action of many hormones, at the age of twelve years in boys. The changes are numerous (genital maturation, onset of hair ...). One step is the most notable change of tone of voice or molting.



Normal transformation

In fact, this change is dependent on the rest of the changes due to puberty, the body grows and expands. Now the larynx, vocal cords headquarters, is no exception to this rule is growing. The vocal cords lengthen and thicken. And the tone of voice is directly related to the thickness of vocal cords vocal cords vibrate thin quickly, giving a shrill voice when the vocal cords vibrate thick slowly and give a voice.

A voice more or less serious

The boy's vocal cords, by getting thicker, so will vibrate more slowly and give a voice serious adult. Of course, the transformation depends on people. On average, the voice down an octave, but declining slightly more important or very slight. This little cause some problems when the child is part of a choir for example. The transformation takes about a year before the boy finally finds his voice.

Mustache, beard, pubic hair and arms

During puberty, the body, stimulated by sex hormones called androgens, is covered with hair in a particular organization: first pubic hair, a triangle for girls, or Descending from the navel to the penis for boys, and underarm hair. Then the hair that covered his arms and legs have thickened; for boys, hair grows at the center of the torso and around the nipples. Finally the men's faces grow mustaches and beards, while some girls are shown a fine down at the same location.



The waxing and shaving: a choice, not an obligation

Depending on your tradition, fashion or personal taste, you'll eliminate some of that hair. For women, there are several techniques: waxing cold or hot, the shave (not recommended because it strengthens the hair regrowth), depilatory creams (to handle with care not to irritate sensitive skin armpit or pubic). Some of you, the hair thicker, will pluck the legs and often discolor the hair on their face. You will perform this care yourself or you use a beautician.

You, boys, you'll have the desire to keep or not your beard and your mustache. To maintain it, you use an electric shaver or mechanical (out for a shave part), being careful not to irritate the skin of your face with soaps and lotions poor.

Sweating and hygiene

Starting at puberty, the body secretes various substances to the strong smell: wash daily, paying particular attention to the external genitalia and underarms to remove sweat, oil or, for girls, vaginal secretions. By cons, no need to lather the vagina is "self cleaning".

Beware of clothing or shoes that are sweat (synthetic underwear, sports shoes, jogging suits, nylon, etc.. ...). In the bad odor they give your skin added another drawback: the fungus, fungi that cause burning or itching.

Take special care of your face, it sometimes "buds" and covered buttons: the acne is cured, provided you follow the treatment is long. Do not hesitate to consult your doctor.